Basic Kinky Birthday Ideas – From Gifts to Gropes

You don’t HAVE TO be into a kinky lifestyle to have a birthday party with a bit of spice. Here are some basic things you should think about when planning your next evetn.

GUESTS


This is obviously the most important. Maybe it’s just you or one other person (a partner or submissive or master). Perhaps you want a large mass of people to partake in the kinky fun. It doesn’t matter – just make sure everyone knows what to expect and that they will also have fun.

While we are talking about who’s coming (*heh), don’t forget to make the invitations something fun that match whatever theme you’re going for.

LOCATION


A private home is best. You can also rent out a club, kink room, or other place that you know will be safe for your play (and people coming and going without bothering neighbors or bringing the cops).

RULES


With any kink party or event, make sure the rules are clearly posted for everyone to see. This can include things like “no photos”etc.

CLOTHES


The sky is the limit! If it’s your special day, maybe buy something you’ve always wanted (I would get my favorite Pleaser shoes). But you can make a gift list for others or have your submissive buy something. If you don’t want to buy anything, wear whatever makes you feel fantastic.

It could also be a reward for any submissive to choose what they want to see their master/mistress in etc.

CAKE


If you name it, it can probably be a cake. However, don’t just stick with penis shaped confectionaries. There are lots of ingredients that are aphrodisiacs that work great in desserts. You also don’t just have to put a fork-full in your mouth. Spread some over skin and lick it off.

Go the extra mile and make a big paper cake for a stripper to come out of – or whatever naughty human present you have in mind.

GAMES


I honestly can’t list them all here. There are just WAY to many. My best advice – google “mistress/master” birthday parties. You’ll see plenty of videos on what people have planned. It’s really inspiriting and awesome!

You can also turn normal games into something extra spicy.

THE DETAILS


It’s the little things that count…

  • Naughty party favors
  • Dirty prizes
  • Appropriate music
  • Fitting food

OTHER IDEAS


  • Have someone mixing a themed cocktail for your day
  • Make foot small and easy/quick to eat – nibbles are better for when people want to play
  • Be aware of cleaning afterwards
  • Make the submissive partake in serving and cleaning
  • Have different rooms or areas for different activities
  • Make sure condoms and lube are free and easy to grab
  • Make your dress code clear (post it)
  • Be aware of people’s financial restrictions
  • Have other hygiene items ready (like gloves)
  • Don’t bother your neighbors

Anymore ideas for an adult bday event? Share in the comments!

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